Some people have said that a test drive is needed to know if you can really be with this particular woman for the rest of your life. This is the justification needed for premarital sex. In reality, this sneak peek is more destructive than some realize. The courtship is the test drive, the time of getting to know the other personally and intellectually. But once the vows are spoken you are hers and she is yours for the remainder of life. It is important to remain monogamous, allowing your love for each other to never dampen. Do your best to keep those flames of love roaring.
"Drink water out of your own cistern [of pure marriage relationship], and fresh running waters out of your own well." Proverbs 5:15, Amplified
It is interesting that Solomon uses the word picture of water to explain marriage and the importance of monogamy. Each one, it seems, is given a cistern. It is their cistern and theirs alone. A cistern is nothing more that a large pit dug into the earth to collect water. This cistern should be used to only refresh yourself and no one else; it should also be refreshing enough to refresh more than any other might. The one problem with the cistern is that it may just be drinking the same kind of water over and over and over again. How boring could that be? Then go to your well. Fresh new water can be drawn out of the well on a daily basis. The marriage itself does not have to be a collection of the same events over and over. The same can be said of the marriage bed. The Lord gave a man and a wife to each other for the purposes of companionship and procreation as well us just plain pleasure. "Marriage is honorable among all, and the marriage bed undefiled..." (Hebrews 13:4a, NKJV)
"Should your offspring be dispersed abroad as water-brooks in the streets?" Proverbs 5:16, Amplified
I have read over this particular verse many different times and have never read it like the Amplified Version has stated it. In the New King James it speaks of your fountain being dispersed. It is kind of sexual to think of it in this light, but it really is speaking of your offspring. What Solomon is trying to get at here is this: as you become unsatisfied with your own cistern or well you may go abroad. The problem with seeking out other cisterns and wells is that you just may leave a little of yourself behind. Solomon is going to get really in depth with his allegory. if I offend with my interpretation, please for give me.
"[Confine yourself to your own wife] let your children be for you alone, and not the children of strangers." Proverbs 5:17, Amplified
Solomon is still speaking of the bastard children of an adulterous relationship. He knows that it would be best if children were confined to the marriage relationship. Next is where Solomon gets a little more rated "R" in his allegory.
"Let your fountain - of human life - be blessed, [with the rewards of fidelity], and rejoice with the wife of your youth. Let her be as a loving hind and a pleasant doe [tender, gentle, attractive]; let her bosom satisfy you at all times; and always be transported with delight in her love." Proverbs 5:18-19, Amplified
The fountain that Solomon is speaking of is semen. Plain and simply put, your fountain produces semen during a sexual relationship. Should that relationship be with anyone other than your wife. We men should all rename our fountains: Old Faithful. Keeping the sexual relationships in your life confined to one person blesses your fountain. In now way can your fountain be polluted in a monogamous relationship. Love your wife and only your wife. Allow her breasts to be the only satisfaction that you need. Sex in marriage is one of the only things in this life that is truly your own. People share your children and are blessed by them as well as your home, vehicles or talents. But the sexual relationship should only be shared between a husband and a wife. Be blessed by that.
"Why should you, my son, be infatuated with a loose woman, embrace the bosom of an outsider, and go astray?" Proverbs 5:20, Amplified
Solomon ends this section with a question. Why is it that a loose woman should enrapture the heart of a man? Is it the fact that she is loose and easy? If this is the case then I suggest that we look at it from another angle. That loose woman is a cistern that has the potential of being polluted. There is none drawing out of the cistern, only depositing. Is that the kind of refreshment that we need? Have you ever tried to be refreshed by anything other than pure water? It is so much work to have to search out other cisterns and wells when you have one in your home daily. It is so much work to try and cover the fact that you drank from another well. Embrace your wife, let her nakedness satisfy you and you alone, allow your fountain to be for your wife alone. Monogamy. The answer is monogamy. It is safer, it is truer, it is purer.
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