Crown of a Husband (Proverbs 12:3)

The wife of a man is placed together with him to be his helpmate. The Lord established marriage to bring together two separate entities and make them one in spirit and heart and mind. The wife plays a very important role in this relationship. She is the bringer of joy and pride to her husband.

"A virtuous and worthy wife - earnest and strong in character - is a crowning joy to her husband, but she who makes him ashamed is a rottenness to his bones." Proverbs 12:4, Amplified

In the last chapter of Proverbs we find the description of the woman of God. Often it is referred to as the Proverbs 31 woman. The purpose of a wife is to bring help to her husband, this is why the institution of marriage was created. The Lord wanted to bring a helpmate for His creation Adam. She was created from a rib bone, close to his heart, under his arm, to come along side him. As she fulfills this role in the marriage relationship, it then becomes a crown of joy to her husband. Notice that it is not the acts that she commits or the role she plays. She becomes the crown of joy upon his head.

The crown sits upon the head of the king, or royalty. Out of all the items of clothing man has worn throughout the years, the crown has been the most ornate and beautiful. Not only is it beautiful but it also proclaims authority. It is a symbol of pride. Only one man in a nation would wear a crown. It distinguished that one man from the rest of the people.

But she can also become a rottenness to his bones. When she does not fulfill her role as a virtuous wife, the becomes a shame to him. It is possible for a woman to be independent in the marriage relationship, but this is not the role she was called to play. From this rottenness springs forth bitterness and resentment. He gets sick thinking about his own wife, because she is no longer his glory, but now she is his undoing.

Ladies, it is so important for you to be that crown of joy for your husband. However, men, we need to be that godly king who deserves that crown of glory. As we pursue Christ, so she will pursue us. Be that man of God we are all called to be.